I have a couple good friends who call me a diva. Alright, I can live with that. What I would like to know is what is the equivalent of a diva for men? When a man is strong and a little bit of an asshole, he's considered a man. When a woman is powerful and a little bit of a bitch she's called a Diva.
I have my diva moments, it's true. However, I also have my moments where I'm just a strong woman who won't take shit from other people. There is a fine line between bitch and diva. However what is that fine line for men?
Why are men allowed to be powerful and mean, without reproach?
Maybe because we expect that from men. We think it is somehow inherently wrong for a woman to be powerful.
When a woman attains some form of power we call her a diva, a bitch. When a man does the same thing, we have nothing to call him.
There is this idea that matriarchy should stay in the home and patriarchy should stay in the world. The problem is that we assign certain roles to genders instead of letting people just be.
When Hilary Clinton is president will she just be another bitch in charge? Or will she be respected? It will be hard for people to take a woman as the leader of the free world. But how free is the world if a woman in charge will scare a lot of people?
I don't think women should rule the world, nor do I think men should. I honestly believe in equality. In fact there should be two presidents, a man and woman working together. If we understood ourselves better we might see the beauty of this.
I don't even think that every woman is feminine and every man is masculine, however I think a mixture of both these forces is a good combination. For a country, for a life.
There is a certain something I get from my girlfriends, however there is something special that I also get from my relationship with men. Whether it be a significant other, a friend or a relative. I need both aspects in my life.
Balance. The yin and the yang. The masculine and the feminine.
So whether you are a diva, or just a dramatic dude...don't let these labels rule you or fool you. You be you, let the world label itself.